The ABC’s of Friendship

Part 3 – Friends for a Season

This week in our discussion on friendship, I want to share about those friends who come into our lives for only a short period of time.  In a poem, by an Unknown Author, some of the reasons for a friendship of this nature are discussed.  In part, the poem reads…

“When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.”

Often times we can’t see the “reasons” for a friendship of this nature until they are long over. I recall a very dear friend of mine that came into my life when we started attending the same church. She was much older than me, but we connected in a way I’d never really connected with anyone before. As time progressed, we shared more and more – she was definitely an A+ friend as I turned to her as my world and my marriage started to fall apart. Through her life experience, she was able to walk me through a very difficult time in my life and, I believe, her guidance helped saved my marriage. We remained friends for years after that, but then my job required me to move. Oh we promised, we’d stay in touch and we did…for a while.  Several circumstances and events occurred which caused us to grow further apart. I was hurt. I was angry. I was sad. I missed the woman I’d become so close to. Eventually, after much pain – I let her go.

I wish I’d realized the lesson about friendships for a reason  as I could’ve saved myself so much heartache by fighting to hold on to something that I needed to let go. The season was over.  Because it was a friendship that endured many years, I think it was challenging for me to say good-bye to something and someone who’d meant so much to me.

We all want and need friendships – they are part of the fabric of our lives. The important thing is to recognize when a friendship is coming to an end and be thankful for the time that this person walked along life’s path with you.